|About the Book|
This is not one of those “I drank too much, screwed up my life, found God, and now my life is perfect” sorta memoirs. No, no. I found addiction and treatment to be something different than that. Frankly, everything I thought I knew about alcoholismMoreThis is not one of those “I drank too much, screwed up my life, found God, and now my life is perfect” sorta memoirs. No, no. I found addiction and treatment to be something different than that. Frankly, everything I thought I knew about alcoholism turned out to be wrong.See, I used to get sexually abused when I was a child. What followed was a long descent into self-loathing, loss of faith, manipulation, sexual dysfunction, sexual deviousness, narcissism and finally, substance abuse. I lived as an addict for about four years, employing a “scorched earth” policy towards my own life and everyone’s life around me. Needless to say, I soon found myself completely alone- having lost all meaningful relationships and worldly possessions. It was then that I did what most every addict does: I found an AA meeting. Then I almost died.Does that surprise you? It surprised the hell out of me. Alcoholics Anonymous is a world-wide program that has been around since 1935. Their program is so ingrained into the public consciousness that people don’t even think about addiction without thinking of AA. The program has simply helped millions of addicts recover. Do you know what else they do? Kill addicts. Yes, it’s true—the AA program is so reckless and inadequate that they actually put addicts into the ground. I could have been one of them until I learned another way. As part of this book, I will explore and evaluate the AA principles in the context of my own experiences.This memoir is not a comprehensive look at addiction and treatment. It’s more of a comparison between AA (disease model) and the Life Process Program (choice model). I enrolled in both programs. Certainly I am a firm proponent of the choice model of addiction and recovery, and that will be made quite clear throughout the book. While I try to provide a balanced approach between the models, there can be no doubt that I’m aiming for a direct indictment of Alcoholics Anonymous. That program, while effective for some people, does tremendous harm to millions more. I was one of those millions.God, Sex and Addiction is a two-part narrative. Book One profiles my spiral into addiction. Book Two describes my daily battle with alcoholism, its effect on my family, and subsequent treatment efforts. Throughout the entirety of the book, I pause the autobiographical content and begin to pose contextual questions for the reader. The questions are intended to give insight into addiction and treatment. It also gives the reader a chance to possibly re-evaluate their own ideas about the addiction and recovery.My life has been sexually explicit. Therefore, this memoir is sexually explicit. To add further intrigue, there is a world-renowned athlete who plays a significant role in my marriage and in my self-destruction.